We know how difficult the adolescent years are! Teenagers have to learn new skills, such as dealing with emotions, learning to be more independent and making own decisions. They have to experiment, take risks and make mistakes. It’s a challenging time that we, as adults, struggle to remember and often don’t understand.
Pleasure seeking
Advances in neuroscience help us understand how adolescents carry out the decision-making process. Perhaps the most significant finding is that they do so with a brain that is still developing, so not all of its abilities are fully acquired. In addition, decision-making involve two areas of the brain that mature (become fully developed) at very different times), which is what leads to mistakes.
One of these areas is the mesolimbic system that is responsible for triggering our body’s reward system. This system reinforces the repetition of behaviours that create pleasure—such as partying with friends—or survival behaviours—such as drinking water from time to time or on very hot days. Hormones drive the mesolimbic system which is why its activation during adolescence is very high.
The prefrontal cortex is a second key area of the brain at this time, which is responsible for executive functions such as impulse regulation and self-control. It is still developing during the adolescent years which means there is a lack of maturity in the brain regions that are responsible for behavioural control.
This imbalance is key to understanding why adolescents sometimes make the decisions they do. In their heads, a highly activated pleasure-seeking system is combined with a developing conscious behavioural regulation system.
In short, it is the perfect combination for teenagers to engage in risky behaviours.
Feeling part of a group
In addition to individual development, the social world of adolescents is also a crucial aspect at this stage.
In these years, peers become central to socialisation and learning. Boys and girls don’t disengage completely from family, but they do expand their social circle. Increasingly, they look for trust, support and security in their friends.
Belonging to a social group is a priority which necessitates accepting and adapting to the norms of the group. This is why the behaviour of individuals is regulated by the group. What others see as positive and accepted will be desired and repeated. What is censored or seen as negative will be repressed. This influence that the group has on individuals is known as peer pressure.
The role of adults
Here are three tips from scientific studies that we can use to help adolescents:
- Realising that making mistakes and taking certain risks is an adolescent process: the important thing is to learn from them and we should try to help them realise the mistakes and alternatives.
- The brain development of this age group means thatthe pleasure of experimenting with certain risky behaviours prevents a proper assessment of their consequences. It is necessary to explain, carefully and with understanding, what these consequences are.
- Adolescents need to feel free to experiment and make mistakes, but they also need to know the limits and consequences. Although they want to be independent, they still need to feel cared for by the adults.
Adolescents have a very different perspective from adults. Understanding their point of view is important but we need to value it too. They need to feel listened to and, above all, understood, while they navigate a stormy period in their lives.